Ruby,
There's another angle you might find interesting.
I was talking to an xJW a couple of months ago who, many years ago, married a JW wife when they were both very young. After a few years he had an affair with a woman at work. He was disfellowshipped for adultery and his JW wife divorced him (there were no children).
His JW ex-wife is remarried and he eventually married the non-JW woman and they have been very happy together ever since. She was also of immense help in helping him readjust to non-JW life, and this included encouraging him to investigate the WT organisation, as a result of which he has no intention of ever returning. The thought of returning to a KH is repulsive to him. I suggested he could simply 'fake it' to get reinstated, and then just stop attending, but he said that would now be wholly incompatible with his sense of personal morality... That put me in my place!
The problem is that his brain-dead JW parents, siblings and extended family still strictly shun him, even though he's now leading a upstanding, moral life, has a well respected job and is a pillar of his local community. But there's absolutely no way he is now able to restore relations with his family.
